Self Care: Things we need to stop stressing over in 2020

It’s January and officially a brand new year! Self care is so important during this month in particular, as after the huge Christmas build up (which pretty much starts the moment Halloween is over) it’s a well known fact that people can feel a bit deflated and the January blues can kick in. I wrote a blog post about this last year HERE if you would like some tips on how to keep positive during January.

There are a few things that we need to stop stressing about and leave well and truly behind in 2019. We really shouldn’t be over-thinking or worrying about these sort of things and I’m sure you will be able to relate. 

Cosmetic procedures

Cosmetic procedures used to be a little secret and not something to really broadcast or talk about. However these days it seems that EVERYONE has had some sort of enhancement. Lip fillers are now a standard procedure and the majority of girls that I see on Instagram have had some kind of lip treatment and I have found myself starting to wonder if this is something I need to have done myself. I have never had any issues with my lips before, but it just goes to show that the images we see online on a daily basis, can really start to affect the way we think and how we look at ourselves, which is not a good thing. This has even led me onto looking at jaw fillers, nose fillers and an obsession with having the perfect straight, white teeth which I actually had done last year. I have nothing against anyone having a cosmetic procedure if it’s something they really want and if it makes them feel better, that’s amazing. But having procedures just for the sake of it, or because it’s seen as a trend is not healthy and we all need to learn to love ourselves as we are without comparing ourselves to how others look.

Also, our beauty regime these days is not a cheap process! We can’t just apply a quick layer of fake tan with a face of make up for a night out anymore. Now days there are so many things that us females feel the need to have done, from micro bladed brows, Russian lashes, hair extensions at £400 a session, nail extensions, tan, make up – the list goes on. To add to this,  new beauty trends pop up all the time and the pressure to be involved in these sort of trends are constantly looming in the background.

Baby Gate

“When are you having a baby then?

“You better get a move on now that you are in your 30’s” 

“You don’t want to be an old mum though do you?”

If only I had a pound for the amount of times I have been asked these sort of questions! It seems that when anyone has been in a relationship for any length of time, it becomes the question that everyone feels they have the right to ask you. Perhaps some of us are just happy being a couple and enjoying life together without children. A crazy thought right?

I’ve found myself starting to get annoyed with these sort of questions. They have started coming from friends that have had their own children and there’s nothing worse than your own friends ‘pregnancy shaming’ you. I have even been questioned by my boyfriend’s friends about this subject which really surprised me. I don’t know about you, but being told by a male that you are “running out of time” just seems bizarre to me. My womb is my own business thank you very much!

So, I feel that people really should avoid asking couples about this subject. You never know, they could be trying for a baby and not getting anywhere which could be distressing for them. For me personally, it starts to make me panic and makes me feel that I am falling behind others my age which is really silly and a classic example of peer pressure. I love my life at the moment – if I want to go on holiday or on a last minute night out, I can. I don’t have to try and find a baby sitter and I don’t have scary child care costs to worry about and that suits me just fine. But equally, I do want a family of my own and I do appreciate that there is a time restriction for females but we should be allowed to do things at our own pace without judgement and without feeling the pressure from others.

FOMO 

The fear of missing out. This is another modern day thing that I feel all of us suffer from which needs to stop. Social media is the biggest route cause of this and we all need to remember that these platforms are a showreel of someone’s life. No one ever posts the boring bits of their day or the part where they are sitting at home in their pyjamas looking like Hagrid. 

So, when you see everyone else on yet another luxurious holiday, or with yet another brand new outfit, dont let it make you feel that you are falling begind or that you are not in the same league as these people.

It’s easy to look at friends too and compare yourself to what they are doing. It’s normal to so this but it’s also important to stress that everyone has their own path in life and just because you know someone that is buying a house or getting a sparkly new kitchen and you aren’t at the moment – then that’s ok! Your time will come and if anything, it will encourage you to work towards your own goals more so enjoy the process of your own personal journey in your own time.

Lipstick – special Isabel Marant collection by Loreal

How to beat the dreaded January Blues

January has always had a bad name for itself. There was a huge build up to Christmas and that is now sadly all over and done with. Your bank account is looking in a sorry state and you are feeling like an actual pig in blanket from over doing it over the holiday period. Is this sounding familiar right about now?

To avoid the January blues, here are some of my top tips and 5 simple ways to help boost your mood for the first month of the year.

1. Get out more

At Christmas we tend to spend most of the time relaxing at home and after a while you start to feel a bit lazy and restless. Now is the perfect time to get out of that sluggish vibe and get out exploring! Go to that new coffee shop that you have been wanting to try out, go out of town and have a mooch around a different one for a change. Plan something fun that you will look forward to such as a London west end show or go and watch a new movie that’s come out at the cinema. I want to go and watch the new Mary Poppins so I am excited for that this month.

I have also been to visit the beautiful new Elan branch that recently opened in London as you will see from the images in today’s post!

2. Meet up with family and friends

Arrange to go and have a coffee with a friend you haven’t seen recently,  spend a day shopping with your mum or sister and even plan a relaxing spa day with your boyfriend. Not only will it cheer you up, but it will help them out with the depressing side of January too! If both you and family/friends are trying to be healthy for the new year you could go to an exercise class together.

3. Have a Spring clean

There’s something about the start of the new year that makes me want to have a really good clean up of my home. I like to go through my cupboards and get rid of anything that I haven’t used for a while. I will start in the bathroom and go through old products and the medicine cabinet and get it all organised. I’ll then move onto other areas such as the kitchen (we all have one of those messy kitchen drawers) and work my way through the rest of the house.

A wardrobe spring clean is also really therapeutic and one of my favourite things to get in order. You can read about how I do this on a previous blog post HERE.

4. Dry January

Drinking has a huge impact with your mood and can make you feel fed up. We all like to indulge at Christmas and January is a great time to have a bit of a detox. Last year I only bothered for a couple of days and was annoyed with myself for not seeing it through. Not this year! I am one week in and feeling a lot fresher already.  Not only will your mood improve, but having a break from the alcohol is a great way to lose a few of those extra Christmas pounds.

5. Set yourself a goal

Now is a fab time to plan for the year ahead. Have you had your eye on a Gucci handbag or new piece of furniture but not had the funds to buy it? Set yourself a goal and save some money each month and when you finally have enough to buy it, it will feel like such a great achievement. Obviously don’t save more than you can realistically afford each month. Your bills will always need to come first!

Get planning a holiday. You might have always wanted to go to New York at Christmas time or for a couple of weeks somewhere in the Caribbean. If you start planning early on in the year you can work towards that end goal.

I have a few goals in mind for myself this year which I plan to stick to and will continue to work towards. I have been using the MiGoals planner which I featured in one of my Christmas gift guides HERE and I am loving it so far! It is a great way to keep track of your goals.

What do you usually do to combat the January Blues?

Let me know if you try any of my tips and if they work for you!

Thanks for reading xx

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